Corner of Truth (1)
How green is the grass on the other side?
Love; easy to spell yet complicated. It is not always understood; it heals and it hurts, it builds up and it tears apart, it gives life and it takes same away, it intoxicates and it depresses. How can these complications be eliminated and the positives of love enjoyed? Nurturing could eliminate this complication. Love is like a flower; it needs to be frequently watered for it to blossom. Without this watering, it loses its freshness and dies. When its freshness is lost, relationships become unbearable. Adorn your partner with kind words every day and see your relationship blossom. Rebuke when necessary, but do this with love. Celebrate each other’s success and provide support when failure is encountered. Be slow to identify wrongs and quick to admit faults. Challenges would certainly come, but be determined to sustain a healthy atmosphere in your relationship at all times.
Giving life to some unhealthy factors creates deep cracks that cause a relationship to nose dive. Not every relationship is rescued before a fatal landing occurs. Parties in a relationship unconsciously become co-tenants rather than partners that they truly are. The hurting of each other creates a coldness of heart. The communication level is dwindling and you are gradually becoming indifferent to the other person’s behaviour. You are parties in a relationship but dead to each other.
Lies, unfaithfulness and distrust must not exist in your relationship. Life should not be given to them. Life is sometimes given to them just to satisfy selfish cravings. These selfish cravings, causes you to comfortably speak lies, as you look into those adorable eyes of the one you love. The evil about these selfish cravings is that, it makes you focus on the now, blinding you to the consequences of your actions in the future. During this period, all that you are concerned about is yourself. You feel like you are riding on the highest of clouds, until those clouds get pulled away from under your feet. Causing you to land on your face like spilled mayonnaise — faced with reality.
You have been hurt too many times that you take a look at your heart and all you see is thick drops of blood dripping from uncountable arrows that have been thrust in it. These arrows were not thrust by a stranger but by the one you love. You ask yourself, how much more offences can I accommodate? How much more strength do I have to keep being the victim? From the sight of your hearts’ state, there is no more space to accommodate another hurt. It is sad, dangerous and devastating to get to this point.
It was not sour in the beginning, but colourful, sweet and intoxicating. But somewhere along the line you lost the supposedly minor principles that caused you to feel each other’s heartbeat, so close, even when you are far apart. You live under the same roof, yet distant from each other — your connection is lost. Suspicion has become the order of the day, because trust is lost. The loss of trust in a relationship can turn a jar of caramel and vanilla ice cream into a drum of extra sour lemons. It takes a great deal of effort to get trust restored in a relationship. Sometimes, it is never restored. Do not loose yours!
Be wise my friends, be wise! Why go chasing after a chicken in the bush when there is a peacock flaunting its beauty in your yard? What you seek is not out there but right where you are. Consciously choose to know what it is you have been blessed with. Doing this prevents you from being among them that recite these words in regret “you don’t know what you have till it’s gone”. Love, appreciate, respect, cherish and adore that which you have, because there are no green grasses but dry lands on the other side.